11 quotes and phrases we often say or quote wrongly

1. EAT ALONE AND DIE ALONE

Eat alone and dine alone

2. MONEY IS THE ROOT OF ALL EVIL

THE LOVE OF MONEY IS THE ROOT OF ALL EVIL TIMOTHY 6:10 KING JAMES VERSION

3. MONEY MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND

LOVE MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND

4. I COULD CARES LESS

I COULDN’T CARE LESS”.
When you say “I couldn’t care less,”you’re saying you really, really don’t care. You care so little, that you could not care any less.:

5. “COULD OF, WOULD OF, SHOULD OF”

COULD HAVE,WOULD HAVE SHOULD HAVE,
this is a case of mishearing of phrase aloud as contractions: could’ve, would’ve, should’ve. When someone says “could’ve” out loud, it might sound more like they’re saying “could of.”

6. “Winning isn’t everything”

“Winning isn’t everything (then he pause). Men; its the only thing

These is the real quote, spoken by former UCLA Bruins football coach “Red” Sanders, was uttered to a group of students at a physical education work.

7. Jack of all trade master or none

A jack of all trades is a master of none, but oftentimes better than a master of one.”

8. Great mind think alike

“Great minds think alike…and fools seldom differ.”

9.When one do closes another door opens

“When one door closes another door opens, but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.”

Keep that in mind the next time a door slams shut before you,

before the next one opens, you’ll have to turn around.

10.Curiosity kills the cat

“curiosity killed the cat…but satisfaction brought it back.”

In other words: being nosy might get you into trouble, but learning the truth is often worth the risk.

11. Be the change you want to see in the world

“If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him.”

Sadly, that doesn’t fit on on a bumper sticker as well.

By Peace Efanga Okokon

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Violence and abuse (the last part of love is not enough)

From  a personal Research I have realized that Most relationships do not start off abusively or with violent,

Very few intimate relationships never become abusive at all, but unfortunately many do.
Domestic abuse can happen to anyone regardless of their social, educational, or financial status. Abuse occurs when one person in a relationship attempts to dominate and control the other person.

Usually, the control begins with psychological or emotional abuse, then gradually escalate to physical abuse. When domestic abuse includes physical violence, which is called domestic violence.

Now having a partner who abuses you emotionally or psychologically as a boyfriend have a great tendency to abuse you physically in marriage!

Marrying the violent person in the name of love is absolutely wrong,  as you will not just endanger your life!  You are going to inflate pain on your love once too,

Save yourself , do not let this happen to you or anyone else as love is not ENOUGH

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by Peace Efanga Okokon 

Tolerance level (love is not ENOUGH PART 5)

Tolerance is not looking with your eyes, but rather with your heart

By katrina taylor

You have to be sure, to be able to tolerate you partners behavior, a lot of things and habits of your spouse will sincerely irritate and disgust you,

These questions will run through your mind and you sure have to give your self a honest answer :

  • Can you tolerate his or her lengthy time in dressing up?
  • can you tolerate his or her snoring habit?
  • Can you stand his or her nonchalant attitude?
  • Would you be able stand his or her bad eating habit?
  • Can you stand his or her attitude towards finance?
  • Can you tolerate his or her very disorganized way of doing thing.

Trust me there are lots of alarming and lenhty list of irritating and annoying habits you will see in your spouse, would you be able to tolerate them? Would he or she be able to tolerate yours??

Whats your partners level of tolerance as an individual, how much patients dose he /she has, would he/she be willing to cut down those egos and come down to your level?

  • Can he or she tolerate your weaknesses,
  • Can you two help each other to grow and get better,
  • Would he or she be able to leave with your flaws and love you just the way you are??

Your partners LEVEL of tolerate is a very vital thing to put into consideration before making up your mind About him or her. I assure you that this is ENOUGH reason to walk away before you end up living a life full of regret!! Am sure that you agree with me that love is not ENOUGH that tolerance is as important as love in a healthy relationship.

LOVE is not ENOUGH

This is the fourth part of this article

Incase you have not read part one-three, check my previous post as I talk about other things thats are to be put into consideration aside from love. Before setting out for marriage

these 👇 things are to be put into consideration

1: financial status and prospect
2 : family 👪 ties and orientation
3 : Trust level and commitment
4 : Mutual Respect and fear of God
5 : tolerance level
6 : violence and abusive

4: mutual respect and fear of God.

Mutual respect and fear of God is a need for a healthy RELATIONSHIP

A relationship without mutual respect is a complete waste of time

Respect in a relationship is reflected in the manners in which couples treat each other on a daily basis.
No doubt there will be disagreements , arguments and some friction between you two, but that’s not withstanding, the people involved in the relationship must understand the need for mutual respect even in the mist of argument and disagreement.

They should be able to respect and value each other’s opinions and feelings by “fighting fair.”
But if mutual respect is absent in a relationship, Then splitting can be considered or maybe work it out ????

The fear of God , you may be wondering if it is a need,

oh yes its a need for a healthy RELATIONSHIP

I tell you this, marriage💍 is different from dating , it takes two people that have the fear of God to build a happy marriage, And raise responsible children.

Understand that lgoing to church or mosque does not mean that a person has the fear of God!

I am a Christian so I will speak from the perspective of a Christian,
It is a known fact that a person that fears the lord, treats his spouse right

It is written that a man should love his wife as Christ love the church

Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

And it is also written that wives should be submissive to there husband

Ephesians 5:22-33

For obvious reasons if he or she does have the fear of God happiness is sure

but if not, be ready for what’s coming your way as just love won’t be enough to sustain you when mutual respect and fear of God is absent.

Looking forward to have you in the next part this articles love is not ENOUGH

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LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH PART THREE

From the previews articles we have seen the number one and two reasons why we should not marry only on the bases of love

these 👇 other things are to be put into consideration

1: financial status and prospect
2 : family ties and orientation
3 : Trust level and commitment
4 : Mutual Respect and fear of God
5 : tolerance level
6 : violence and abusive

PART THREE

3 :TRUST LEVEL AND COMMITMENT

what is the TRUST LEVEL IN RELATIONSHIP
It is very important to know and understand that a person can love you and not trust you (oh yeah),

And its a two way thing, because you can also love someone and still can‘t or don’t trust him/her.

But it is not a healthy relationship. You should learn to trust or if you really can‘t maybe you should get out the relationship . There’s no sense in loving someone without trusting them because love and trust completed and compliments each other.

If you have trust issues in dating, do not give your self any form of false hope that marriage will change how you see him or her.

Just the way you deal with any toddler, there are some things that just aren’t worth the fight.

Don’t force the confrontation, talk only when you are calm or when he or she is ready to talk

When you are wrong reconige it, Acknowledge and apologize

Stay happy and stay in love

Ask questions in the comment box

And also let me know your Thaught.

By Peace Efanga Okokon

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LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH

Marrying a person just because you love them is not ENOUGH

what happened to all of these 👇

1: financial status and prospect
2 : family ties and orientation
3 : Trust level and commitment
4 : Mutual Respect and fear of God
5 : tolerance level
6 : violence and abusive

I will be dividing this article into six (6) parts; today I will be writing the first part

PART ONE.

*financial status and prospect :*

This a a very serious aspect of things to put into consideration even if you are in love with a person before deciding to tie the knot.

“Finances have long been a trouble area in marriage,” says Julie Murphy Casserly, author of The Emotion Behind Money, “and the current economic crisis is stretching even more people to emotional breaking.
In fact, in resent survey I found out that among three couples two lies about there financial status, which ends up leading to arguments, distrust, separation and divorce. Together with your partner, be sure to discuss finance
Make proper checklist before you say “I do.”
Your partner should be able to tell you how much he/she earns;

*Prospect*

One thing is not to have a job, another is not willing to leave your comfort zone in search of financial stability or job;
You will agree with me, that no one like to carry all the weight, no one enjoy paying all the bills,
For the women even if your husband is rich,
He may not tell you this but will be glad to know that you cleared the electricity bill, refilled the gas before he drop the money and when he says
“Sweetie I will be forwarding some money to you for the utility bill and you say to him
“Oh dear you are just remembering , never mind I already cleared the bill.”
You must be sure that he has prospect, yes! His not financially stable now , but he is hard working so I know that his going to make it big, this should be convincing enough

*Remember*

Love those not put food on the table, a hungry man is an angry man, do not marry a lazyperson
LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH
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Part Two love is not ENOUGH

This is the second part of this edition, check my previous post for part one

what happened to all of these 👇

If love is ENOUGH
1: financial status and prospect
2 : family ties and orientation
3 : Trust leveled and commitment
4 : Mutual Respect and fear of God
5 : tolerance level
6 : violence and abusive

PART TWO

2: family ties and orientation

Some family have been able to build a safe and happy environment at home which is the key to both good physical and mental health.

Families like these has In today’s busy society build a solid relationship and the members shares every good and bad moment together.

They are taught that the family is there main pillar of support and love. Celebrating successes or special occasions with family members bring joy and meaning to there lifes.

You will agree with me that no family is same, Some family have rituals they follow, Some do not accept certain life style, Some believes only in there religion and can’t see another religion as an option,

Now understanding the kind of family that you are getting married too, is very essential.

all of these you must put into consideration :

  1. Yes I have meet my partners family and I like them “do they share same opinion or feel the same way that i feel about them?
  2. Can I freely worship in my own way?
  3. Do I share at least some believes as they do?
  4. Can I cope with there rituals?
  5. am I willing to accept and see my partners siblings as mine?

Remember

A watched pot never boils

Follow, like watch out for the next part of this article

By peace Efanga Okokon

Tips for single mum’s on relationships

If you are a single mum and desire to get married and be happy this tips will help you

1: Tell him you have a child on your first date.

2: let him know that you love your son or daughter.

3: Strike a balance between his time and your child’s time.

4: let him know that your child’s happiness comes first.

5: Ask him what he wants.

6: Never treat your child bad or call him/her names in his present.

7: Do not ask him for money, for your child’s upkeep unless it’s a pressing matter.

8: Dont try to turn him into a father (he is not).

9: never call him names in front of your child.

10: Dont compare him with your ex, two people are not the same.

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By peace Efanga Okokon

Mental readiness before marriage

Marriage is one of the most important events in our life, and the decision to get married is one of the most critical decisions we will ever make. It is obvious that it brings about a lot of thinking, planning and timing are required to create the appropriate state of mind before we make such a decision.

This article will help you prepare mentally for marriage.

Our mental readiness before marriage will determine the type of marriage we encounter. The mindset of couples looking for a love marriage is different from the mindset of couples looking for an arranged marriage.

At a personal level, men and women face different kinds of challenges while preparing themselves for marriage.

Some basic questions to be answered honestly by the couple, alone and together, before getting married are:

Are we e right age to get married?

Are we emotionally prepared to share our space with another person?

Are we mentally prepared to share the responsibilities of a married life?

Have we spent enough time with our potential partner?

Is there compatibility with regard to communication and sharing of feelings with my partner?

How will my present priorities change and where will they be after marriage?

Are we making this decision under the influence of any kind of emotional pressure?

How will our social life and independence change after marriage?

What role do our gut feelings and intuition play in making such a critical decision in life?

Remember these

Seeking opinions from your friends and loved ones may restore faith in your choice and decision. However, this can also backfire and serve to undermine your decision as well, so be careful seeking opinions from others.

As our choices are level of tolerance are different

Be open when sharing about your past life to your potential partner. Honesty leads to trust, which lays the foundation for a lasting relationship.

The expectations that you have individually about marriage and your partner should be discussed with them thoroughly. This leads to a better understanding of what is in store for you together.

As you meet at mutual consensus on most of the topics of your discussion, you get prepared for the event in a positive

Happy life!!!

By peace Efanga Okokon

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