It’s no news that many people allow themselves get involved in unhealthy relationship either with same or opposite sex for the purpose of convenience.
At teenage, our criteria for choosing friends are different from those of a young adult as academics, latest music, teens church activities, etc dominated the minds of the former, while trending fashion, celebrity gossip and the likes dominate the minds of the later and inform their choice of friends. But as fully-grown adults we are even better positioned to make better choices than at the former stages.
A good understanding of how and what to look out for when choosing a friend and things that should prompt me to stay away from an advancing friend proposition is of essence because, like the saying goes “show me your friends and I’ll tell you who you are”.
Here are a few things to consider before deciding to maintain a relationship:
Loyalty, Consistency, Reliability, Honesty, Consideration for others, and Generosity. Above everything else, Understanding and Trust are inevitable in relationships.
We need to understand that there are different types of friends that we must avoid. Knowing what you want in your friend is good, but you also need to be sure of what you don’t want in a friend. I have compiled a list of a few “Turn-offs” below, you may wish to add some more.
1. The Driller:
This set of friends are energy drillers they only remember you when Things are bad, they need support and advice or someone to help them ease their burdens when they are faced with emotional challenges or going through other difficulties but once their problems are sorted they forget your existence until new problems surface.
2. The Competitive Friends
This set of friends are always somehow in competition with you, whenever you buy a new phone, clothing, furniture ,cars they do everything possible to acquire same even if they have to borrow, they are always struggling to measure up with you or even with others around you. Avoiding such kind of friends may be as good as safeguarding your self and family, because such persons are capable of hurting you out of envy when they are unable to meet up with you.
3. The Off and On Friends:
This set of friends only come around when nothing is going on well in their lives, they are usually people we see as our best friends or close friends. Whenever they have a man or woman in their life they completely forget about you, infact, you will be the only one doing all the calling, and once they are faced with disappointments, they remember you and won’t even give you a break, it’s quite understandable that when people are in new relationships, especially marriage, they become more busy and can’t give as much time as they used to give while they were single but completely forgetting your close friends is not OK, that’s why the best thing to do with such friends is to let them go. You don’t need that kind of instability in your life.
4. The Supporter Friends:
There are friends who never say “you are wrong”, they support all you do, they encourage you to do things that you always end up regretting, yes a good friend will defend you in public and reproach you in private they never tell you that you are right knowing fully well that what did or are doing is completely wrong, but this set of friends being described here, do all they can to keep themselves in your good book, you have to be careful with such friends! They don’t mean well for you and can endanger your life or put you into some serious problem.
5. The Loud Mouthed Friends:
These loud mouthed kind of friends are very dangerous, whenever they come to you they never discuss bussiness, prosperity or any thing beneficial ,No! You don’t feel free or secure around such. they are always boasting about their achievements, they condemn every effort you make to achieve something, they go around saying stuffs about you without caring about how it will affects you.
stay away from bad and unpro